How to Speak Confidently: 12 Proven Techniques for Public Speaking

Confident speaking isn't about being fearless—it's about communicating effectively despite your nerves. The good news? Confidence can be learned. These 12 techniques will help you speak with authority in any situation.

Why Confidence Matters

• How persuasive you are
• How competent people think you are
• Whether people remember what you said
• How much influence you have

The challenging part: confidence and competence aren't the same thing. Brilliant people struggle to be heard while mediocre ideas gain traction through confident delivery.

Learning to speak confidently isn't vanity—it's ensuring your ideas get the attention they deserve.

Technique 1: Master Your Breath

Nervousness triggers shallow chest breathing, which creates a cycle: less oxygen makes you feel more anxious, which makes you breathe more shallowly.

Break the cycle:

• Take 4-5 deep breaths from your diaphragm
• Inhale for 4 counts, hold for 4, exhale for 4
• This activates your parasympathetic nervous system

• Pause and breathe at natural breaks
• Don't rush to fill silence
• Take a breath before important points

Practice: Put your hand on your belly. When you breathe in, your belly should expand. When you breathe out, it contracts. Practice this until it becomes natural.

Technique 2: Slow Down

Nervous speakers rush. They talk faster, skip pauses, and speed through their most important points.

• You have time to think
• Your audience can absorb information
• You appear more in control
• Your breathing stays regulated

Target pace: 130-150 words per minute for presentations Reality: Nervous speakers often hit 180-200+ WPM

Practice: Use Mic Buddy to track your speaking pace. Practice delivering at a deliberately slow pace until it feels natural. What feels slow to you often sounds just right to your audience.

Technique 3: Ground Your Body

Physical tension undermines confidence. You can't sound relaxed when your body is in fight-or-flight mode.

• Roll your shoulders back and down
• Unclench your jaw
• Relax your hands
• Plant your feet shoulder-width apart

• Stand tall (but not rigid)
• Use purposeful gestures
• Keep your hands visible and relaxed
• Maintain an open posture

Power posing: Research suggests that taking expansive postures before speaking can increase confidence. Try standing tall with hands on hips for two minutes before an important speech.

Technique 4: Make Eye Contact

Eye contact conveys confidence and creates connection. Avoiding eyes makes you seem uncertain or untrustworthy.

How to do it well:

• Look at individuals for 3-5 seconds each
• Move between different people
• Include everyone over time

• Pick friendly faces in different sections
• Look at the back of the room sometimes
• Create the impression of connection even if you can't see individuals

If it's uncomfortable: Start by looking at foreheads or the triangle between someone's eyes—it appears like eye contact to them.

Technique 5: Eliminate Filler Words

"Um," "uh," "like," "you know," and "so" undermine authority. They signal uncertainty and reduce your perceived competence.

• Fear of silence
• Thinking out loud
• Habit
• Nervousness

1. Record yourself and count your fillers
2. Replace fillers with silence
3. Practice pausing deliberately
4. Prepare better so you know what comes next

Use Mic Buddy to automatically track your filler words. Most people are shocked at how many they use—awareness is the first step to change.

Technique 6: Know Your Material

The most common cause of speaking anxiety? Not being prepared.

• Know your content deeply, not just your script
• Anticipate questions and prepare answers
• Practice out loud multiple times
• Know your first and last lines cold

• Memorizing word-for-word (this often backfires)
• Reading from notes the whole time
• Over-scripting every moment

Practice until: You can explain your main points in different ways without notes. That's when you truly know your material.

Technique 7: Embrace the Nervousness

Here's a secret: confident speakers feel nervous too. The difference is how they interpret those feelings.

• "I'm nervous" → "I'm excited"
• "Everyone will judge me" → "They want me to succeed"
• "I might fail" → "I'm prepared and this matters"

Anxiety and excitement produce similar physical sensations. Research shows that labeling your feelings as excitement rather than nervousness actually improves performance.

Before speaking: Say to yourself "I'm excited about this" instead of "I'm so nervous."

Technique 8: Use Your Voice Strategically

Confident speakers vary their vocal delivery:

• Project to be heard without straining
• Louder for emphasis, quieter for intimacy
• Never mumble or trail off

• Lower pitch at the end of sentences (don't uptalk)
• Vary pitch to maintain interest
• Avoid monotone delivery

• Slow for emphasis on key points
• Faster for excitement or energy
• Strategic pauses for impact

Exercise: Read the same sentence emphasizing different words. Notice how meaning changes based on vocal emphasis.

Technique 9: Prepare for the Environment

Confidence drops when you're surprised by circumstances. Control what you can.

• Room size and layout
• Technology setup
• Microphone type (if any)
• Where you'll stand or sit

• Test equipment
• Walk the space
• Get comfortable with the environment
• Handle surprises before the audience arrives

When you can't prepare: Accept that you'll adapt in the moment. Remind yourself you've handled uncertainty before.

Technique 10: Handle Mistakes Gracefully

Confident speakers don't avoid mistakes—they recover well.

• Don't over-apologize
• Correct briefly and move on
• Maintain your composure
• Remember: the audience often doesn't notice

• Pause and breathe
• Look at notes without apology
• Say "Let me return to the key point..."
• Keep going

Mindset shift: A mistake doesn't ruin a presentation. How you handle it defines whether you're seen as confident or flustered.

Technique 11: Create Connection

Speaking "at" people feels like a performance. Speaking "with" them feels like conversation—and conversation is easier.

• Use "we" and "you" language
• Ask questions (even rhetorical ones)
• Reference shared experiences
• Respond to the room's energy

• If people laugh, pause and let it happen
• If energy is low, acknowledge it
• If someone looks confused, clarify
• If someone nods, speak to them more

Technique 12: Practice Consistently

Confidence comes from experience. The only way to get comfortable speaking is to speak more.

• Record yourself talking about your topic
• Explain your work to friends
• Practice presentations in front of a mirror
• Join groups like Toastmasters

• Volunteer for presentations at work
• Give toasts at events
• Speak up in meetings
• Take opportunities even when nervous

Track your progress: Use Mic Buddy to practice regularly. Watch your filler words decrease and pacing improve over time. Seeing evidence of improvement builds confidence.

Building a Confidence Routine

Before important speaking situations:

• Review your material
• Practice once or twice
• Get adequate sleep

• Do breathing exercises
• Move your body
• Run through your opening

• Power pose for 2 minutes
• Take deep breaths
• Say "I'm excited about this"

• Speak slowly
• Make eye contact
• Breathe and pause
• Connect with the audience

Common Confidence Killers (and How to Beat Them)

Imposter Syndrome **The lie:** "I don't belong here" **The truth:** You were invited/hired/chosen for a reason

Comparison **The lie:** "Everyone else is naturally confident" **The truth:** Most speakers are managing nerves—you just can't see it

Perfectionism **The lie:** "If it's not perfect, it's failure" **The truth:** Done and authentic beats perfect and robotic

Catastrophizing **The lie:** "If I mess up, it's a disaster" **The truth:** One moment doesn't define you, and people forget quickly

Conclusion

Confident speaking is a skill, not a trait. You build it through preparation, practice, and techniques that manage your body and mind.

Start with one or two techniques from this list. Master them. Then add more. Over time, what once felt impossible will become natural.

Your voice and ideas deserve to be heard. Confident speaking ensures they are.

Ready to build real speaking confidence? Download Mic Buddy and practice with instant feedback on your pace, filler words, and delivery. Confidence comes from competence—and competence comes from practice.